Long Time No See
I haven't had much computer time lately; and the rare moments I do get online its all too brief! Sometimes I wonder how I cramp everything I currently do into one day let alone fit in extra activities that I may enjoy!!
So much has happened since the last blog so its like starting out fresh!!! So much changes over time i
ts hard to keep up!!!
Adam and I have been married for 6 months now! Wedded bliss does not last long when you've been together as long as we have and have been through all we have over the course of 5 years together. We had a perfect wedding with perfect weather. It could not have been more beautiful. Everything went according to plan and we are so grateful for that. We were able to host the wedding of our dreams and within a budget we could afford. A small miracle that it happened that way but we could not be happier that it did!! But after the wedding we quickly came back to reality as we moved into our new home and got back to the real world of parenting, working and settling into our usual routines!
Seems like since the wedding we've been busier than ever. I'm still working on the thank you notes from the cards and its already time to start addressing Christmas Cards....I don't think I am ever going to get ahead. But Christmas is coming and its my most favorite time of year. I love the lights, decorations, tree trimming, baking and all the fun that goes into it!! Now if only I can figure out how to get Christmas to take place in Summer it'll really be my favorite holiday....no cold would make it just perfect!!!
Matty started 1st grade this year. He is so incredibly smart and he shows me m
ore and more every day just how much! He seems to always take things to the next level and he makes me so proud. I love watching him doing his homework, it takes him no time at all and he is so proud to see that its always done right. His handwriting is still an issue; but its improving. Seems to be the only area he struggles in. He gets a 1/2 hour of OT a week thru the school to help him work on his handwriting struggles. Other than that his first report card came home with all great makes. He is reading on a 3rd grade level.....WOW. Guess that means he's my kid after all!!
In late October Matty was diagnosed with ADHD. I went through a period of time where I wasn't telling anyone because it seems like people see the worst when they look at him and know. I fought with the family members who did know. They all want me to medicate him and I refuse to do so! When discussed with Adam, my grandmother and even Jeff....we all agreed that medicating him at this age would not be wise and as a mother I feel that is my right to choose.
Most of my family does not agree with this choice but they are not his mother, I am. I made this choice with all the facts and I did not make it over night. I mulled it over for quite a while and in the end this was the best choice for our family. So we are taking other avenues and working with some great people to do alternative treatments to help him stay focused and on task at school and to improve his fidgeting and behaviors at home as well. We are making great progress and he's working very hard to meet all of his goals. He's such a good kid and has so much love to give. Even though Bailey won't snuggle with Mommy, I know Matty always will....he's my little lover boy!!!
Bailey is growing by leaps and bounds. Its is hard to believe she'll be 2 years old in February! I cannot believe
how fast the time is flying. I feel like she is growing up right before my eyes and its going so fast it feels like I'm missing it!! She has such a great personality and is a little comedian. Anyone who spends time with her comments on how funny she is....she's my little clown! I just love her. She is a very busy child, always on the move and won't stay still for 5 minutes. Everything with her appears to be a mission. She is forever exploring, climbing, building, and playing. She was always hard to get on a schedule and at times its still difficult to stick to a set schedule with her. Every day with Bailey is an adventure. A friend of ours once referred to her as Hurricane Bailey and she could not have been more dead on!!! She will wreck the house within 10 minutes of my cleaning it LOL some days I just give up!!!
Her health is doing very well for once!!! We are very pleased. Her arms are getting stronger by the week....little gym classes are really agreeing with her. She still has a bit of weakness in the one arm but she doesn't let it stop her for one second. She finds ways around it any way possible and continues on her way with everything. Her last visit to the cardiologist proved to be great news. Her murmur has remained innocent and her tests were normal so they'll check her about once a year to make sure; but at this time its shrinking and we're just hoping it continues to do so!
Her pediatrician has asked us to have her speech evaluated. She is 21 months old and has made no attempt to say one word. Given her premature status and the fact that she was born with a brachial plexus injury; he is thinking that she may have a slight speech delay. With how chatty and expressive Matty is; plus with how much we talk and read to her they are really surprised she doesn't say the basic words yet. All the babies in the family younger than her say the basic 5 words, plus they babble and do baby speak. Bailey isn't doing any of that. As a baby she never babbled or cooed, and she's never made any attempt to form a single word. She just makes 3 basic sounds which resemble grunting, growling and a high pitched screeching.
So we have an evaluation set up for December 7th to see if she would benefit from a little bit of speech therapy. My mother is giving me a really hard time with this one....then again my mother thinks every parenting move I make is ridiculous and over the top. But at this point I am going with my mommy gut and with the recommendation of my pediatrician. Besides an evaluation can't hurt anything; best thing they could tell me is she's fine and she'll talk when she wants. Worse case she's speech delayed and could use a little help. Either way I don't think that the choices I've made for my son or my daughter are ever over the top or ridiculous. But even if they are, they are my choices to make and no one should ever judge me for them. I am just trying to do what is best for my kids and to be the best Mom that I can be.
Lately I have been living by the notion that until you live a week in my life; you don't have any ground to judge me for anything. I do a lot of good things for a lot of people; I am always there for them and always around to help do, plan, and help whenever I am asked....but the minute I need a little bit of help or support I get repayed with judgements, criticisim and unfair assumptions. So until they live like me and struggle like me....they have no right to judge me for anything! My new motto...and I like it!!!
So with the holidays fast approaching I have been working as much extra hours I can get just to be able to afford the holidays this year. I've been taking on side jobs and little extras here and there to try and earn an extra buck to put towards the holidays. I don't get to give my kids the things they want all year long; so I tend to do Xmas and their Birthdays as big as I can manage!
Its time for another long work week.....I'll update again after I get results from Bailey's evaluation!!
Hugs and love to all of you!!
So much has happened since the last blog so its like starting out fresh!!! So much changes over time i
ts hard to keep up!!!Adam and I have been married for 6 months now! Wedded bliss does not last long when you've been together as long as we have and have been through all we have over the course of 5 years together. We had a perfect wedding with perfect weather. It could not have been more beautiful. Everything went according to plan and we are so grateful for that. We were able to host the wedding of our dreams and within a budget we could afford. A small miracle that it happened that way but we could not be happier that it did!! But after the wedding we quickly came back to reality as we moved into our new home and got back to the real world of parenting, working and settling into our usual routines!
Seems like since the wedding we've been busier than ever. I'm still working on the thank you notes from the cards and its already time to start addressing Christmas Cards....I don't think I am ever going to get ahead. But Christmas is coming and its my most favorite time of year. I love the lights, decorations, tree trimming, baking and all the fun that goes into it!! Now if only I can figure out how to get Christmas to take place in Summer it'll really be my favorite holiday....no cold would make it just perfect!!!
Matty started 1st grade this year. He is so incredibly smart and he shows me m
ore and more every day just how much! He seems to always take things to the next level and he makes me so proud. I love watching him doing his homework, it takes him no time at all and he is so proud to see that its always done right. His handwriting is still an issue; but its improving. Seems to be the only area he struggles in. He gets a 1/2 hour of OT a week thru the school to help him work on his handwriting struggles. Other than that his first report card came home with all great makes. He is reading on a 3rd grade level.....WOW. Guess that means he's my kid after all!!In late October Matty was diagnosed with ADHD. I went through a period of time where I wasn't telling anyone because it seems like people see the worst when they look at him and know. I fought with the family members who did know. They all want me to medicate him and I refuse to do so! When discussed with Adam, my grandmother and even Jeff....we all agreed that medicating him at this age would not be wise and as a mother I feel that is my right to choose.
Most of my family does not agree with this choice but they are not his mother, I am. I made this choice with all the facts and I did not make it over night. I mulled it over for quite a while and in the end this was the best choice for our family. So we are taking other avenues and working with some great people to do alternative treatments to help him stay focused and on task at school and to improve his fidgeting and behaviors at home as well. We are making great progress and he's working very hard to meet all of his goals. He's such a good kid and has so much love to give. Even though Bailey won't snuggle with Mommy, I know Matty always will....he's my little lover boy!!!
Bailey is growing by leaps and bounds. Its is hard to believe she'll be 2 years old in February! I cannot believe
how fast the time is flying. I feel like she is growing up right before my eyes and its going so fast it feels like I'm missing it!! She has such a great personality and is a little comedian. Anyone who spends time with her comments on how funny she is....she's my little clown! I just love her. She is a very busy child, always on the move and won't stay still for 5 minutes. Everything with her appears to be a mission. She is forever exploring, climbing, building, and playing. She was always hard to get on a schedule and at times its still difficult to stick to a set schedule with her. Every day with Bailey is an adventure. A friend of ours once referred to her as Hurricane Bailey and she could not have been more dead on!!! She will wreck the house within 10 minutes of my cleaning it LOL some days I just give up!!!Her health is doing very well for once!!! We are very pleased. Her arms are getting stronger by the week....little gym classes are really agreeing with her. She still has a bit of weakness in the one arm but she doesn't let it stop her for one second. She finds ways around it any way possible and continues on her way with everything. Her last visit to the cardiologist proved to be great news. Her murmur has remained innocent and her tests were normal so they'll check her about once a year to make sure; but at this time its shrinking and we're just hoping it continues to do so!
Her pediatrician has asked us to have her speech evaluated. She is 21 months old and has made no attempt to say one word. Given her premature status and the fact that she was born with a brachial plexus injury; he is thinking that she may have a slight speech delay. With how chatty and expressive Matty is; plus with how much we talk and read to her they are really surprised she doesn't say the basic words yet. All the babies in the family younger than her say the basic 5 words, plus they babble and do baby speak. Bailey isn't doing any of that. As a baby she never babbled or cooed, and she's never made any attempt to form a single word. She just makes 3 basic sounds which resemble grunting, growling and a high pitched screeching.
So we have an evaluation set up for December 7th to see if she would benefit from a little bit of speech therapy. My mother is giving me a really hard time with this one....then again my mother thinks every parenting move I make is ridiculous and over the top. But at this point I am going with my mommy gut and with the recommendation of my pediatrician. Besides an evaluation can't hurt anything; best thing they could tell me is she's fine and she'll talk when she wants. Worse case she's speech delayed and could use a little help. Either way I don't think that the choices I've made for my son or my daughter are ever over the top or ridiculous. But even if they are, they are my choices to make and no one should ever judge me for them. I am just trying to do what is best for my kids and to be the best Mom that I can be.
Lately I have been living by the notion that until you live a week in my life; you don't have any ground to judge me for anything. I do a lot of good things for a lot of people; I am always there for them and always around to help do, plan, and help whenever I am asked....but the minute I need a little bit of help or support I get repayed with judgements, criticisim and unfair assumptions. So until they live like me and struggle like me....they have no right to judge me for anything! My new motto...and I like it!!!
So with the holidays fast approaching I have been working as much extra hours I can get just to be able to afford the holidays this year. I've been taking on side jobs and little extras here and there to try and earn an extra buck to put towards the holidays. I don't get to give my kids the things they want all year long; so I tend to do Xmas and their Birthdays as big as I can manage!
Its time for another long work week.....I'll update again after I get results from Bailey's evaluation!!
Hugs and love to all of you!!
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