Kindness Costs Nothing!

It's the little things that really mean a lot! I'm the type of person who reaches out to people when I see they are having a hard time or hear they are struggling. Whether it's a simple text to say hey I'm thinking about you or please let me know if I can help in any way, I'm always there. No matter what's going on in their lives I try my best to be present and be a friend. Lost job, bad breakup, death in the family, medical scares, trouble with kids or family, no matter what I've been there. Even through the good and joyful celebrations; I've been there!

Yesterday I was deeply touched when a friend from high school who I reconnected with on FB reached out by sending me a private message asking how Matt's ultrasound appointment went and letting me know she was thinking of us and hoping everything turns out well for him. I haven't mentioned anything on FB or elsewhere since the first appointment 2 weeks ago. She remembered that he was going for more testing on the 4th and reached out just to check in with us. It's hurtful when you're the person who makes those kind gestures and those same people never bother to even ask how you are when one of those stressful events affects your life. 

At the end of January my child was in crisis which puts our whole household in crisis. His crisis triggered my PTSD and depression and I struggled to hide it to get him through that hard time. Then two weeks ago we're told he could potentially have some swelling in his brain and needed to see this specialist and have all these tests. All those people I've reached a kind hand to saw us struggling and knew we were having a hard time with everything and chose to talk bad about me behind my back or just ignore me completely and prove unfeeling and selfish. They've accepted my friendship and took my love and concern for them and couldn't be bothered to reciprocate that when my world was struggling. It's people like that who only think about themselves that make the world such a hateful place sometimes. Everyone falls from Grace sometimes and everyone struggles. How you show kindness and acceptance is what matters most. You don't have to be my best friend but be kind to those who've been kind to you when you were at your lowest.

Getting that message from this old friend who I really don't talk to much except for loving her posted pictures of her adorable baby meant so much to me. Simple acts like that, just a hello and I'm thinking of you goes such a long way. I'll continue to show those selfish people friendship and compassion next time they fall from grace and life gets hard because there is always a next time, but I'll know never to expect it in return because as long as they have what they need in life they have little concern for people who aren't constantly doing for them. I'm not built to be hurtful and selfish. So I'll never be the one to ignore someone's pain just because they ignore the pain of others. But I'll always know they'll never be big hearted and have a great capacity to love ALL so next time I won't expect kindness back, but I'll always give it because that's just who I am.

I want to thank this old friend for having such a caring nature that she realized that we're worried and stressed and busy with doctors and tests and made it a point to remember that the 4th was significant to us and touched us with her compassion and capacity to love and care for people. It really meant so much to get that message from you and I'll never forget how great of a person you are and have always been. I ❤️ u and I thank you 😘